I miss him.

A year ago today, I was woken up by a text from my godson Dan.  The pope is resigning.

I don’t remember much of that day.  Life was a complete blur.  I had no appetite.  I tried to convince myself it was a dream.  Popes didn’t resign.

I had been saving money for the last eight years to go to Pope Benedict’s funeral and the resulting conclave.  I had never dreamed that there would be one without the other.  The money is still sitting there.

Look at them. Just days after their lives changed forever.

It still feels weird, when I stop and think about the fact that Pope Benedict is still alive.  The world has continued spinning, the Church has continued serving, and life continues on.  It’s easy to forget that he’s still within those Vatican walls, praying for us all, doing exactly what he thinks he should be doing right now.  When I do remember it, it makes my heart hurt a little.  Not because I don’t like Pope Francis, but just because I miss Pope Benedict.

I don’t question his decision, and I don’t question Pope Francis.  To say I miss Benedict is not a statement that passes any judgment on Pope Francis, his pontificate, and the events of last year.  I can miss Benedict while loving Francis, right?

I am quick to defend Benedict, while the world seems quick to judge.  It seems that if we are going to praise Francis and his pontificate, it requires a censure of Benedict’s pontificate, and that breaks my heart.  In most cases, this comes from people who don’t understand the Papacy.  But it still breaks my heart.

Someone asked me if I had read the Rolling Stone article on Francis, and I haven’t.  I can’t.  I know enough of what the author said to know that it would make me miserable.  I know the criticism is out there, but I also know it’s completely false.  It would break Francis’ heart too.  Just because Popes are different doesn’t mean they’re opposed.

I remain firmly convinced that Benedict was one of the greatest Popes to sit on the Chair of Peter, and someday his legacy will shine to its fullest.   Until then, I’ll continue to defend him against people who think criticizing Benedict is a way to praise Francis.

It was a day I’ll never forget:

IMG_1175And many memorable days followed, including the day of his first audience (pictured at the top of this post).  I left Rome in 2005 shortly after his election, only to return in 2008 to spend five glorious months seeing him almost every week.

photo by Katy Thomas
photo by Katy Thomas

Small Masses, big Masses, Audiences, Angeluses.  Before that semester he was a scholar and a Pope to me. After that semester he was a father.


I’ve always wanted to eat breakfast with him.  Strange, I know.  Not a formal dinner, not an official meet and greet, but breakfast.  A cup of coffee. A friendly chat.  It’s something on my bucket list that will never be crossed off this side of heaven.

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I am still glad that on this occasion, I made a conscious effort to see him as he passed by — not through the lens of a camera, but with my own eyes.

So today my heart is a little sad.  Not because I don’t love Francis, but because I also love Benedict.  And I miss him.

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  1. He is one of my favorite popes and one of my favorite theologians / authors. I love reading anything that he has to say about anything. His writings are soaked in hope, while still saying that we can only truly be charitable in and with and through the truth. I don’t care what the “world” says of him, I will love him. God Bless him always! I was very refreshed to see that I wasn’t the only one who saw the beauty of this man. Thank you!

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